ARE YOU ADDING A “TO DO” LIST, TO A “TO DO” LIST?
This is a new year and instead of just starting over again, how about picking up where you left off last year and keep on running the race.
In my opinion, the beginning of the year is not the time to start new things and have new resolutions, but to find those things that you did do right and that made you happy the previous year and continue.
Often people make New Year resolutions and by 1 February, most have been forgotten – to be real, some of you will not even start. Every year when I get to the gym the week after New Year, the place is buzzing and there is not enough parking to accommodate all the New Year’s resolutions, but I have learned to stay calm and let the novelty wear off and by 1 February, everything is back to normal. The same crew pitches up in the gym that has always been there and life just carries on.This is not to say that we cannot decide to make changes in our lives, but why do it on 1 January if history has proven that the failure rate is so high? I think we should make resolutions on the spot. Don’t start your diet on Monday, start it when you think your jeans are too tight. Make a bucket list, but start doing things to get there. There is some planning involved, but just start!
How often do you hear someone say “I would like to visit Paris”, but he/she doesn’t even have a passport. My comment to that is usually “Well, get in your car right now – Parys in the Free State is not that far”, because in my opinion – that is a pipe dream. If you don’t start by doing something to move in that direction, you are not seriously planning to do that anyway and you are just setting yourself up for failure. All of us have dreams that may never be realised – but how do you know if you don’t try. Susan Boyle would never have been the singer she is today, if she didn’t take the step and risked being ridiculed by the best in the business (Simon Cowell). There are the top 10 resolutions for 2013 (Google Facts)
1. Eat healthy and exercise regularly
2. Drink less
3. Learn something new
4. Quit smoking
5. Better work/life balance
7. Save Money
8. Get organized
9. Read more
10. Finish those around the house “to-do” lists
There is not one thing on this list that cannot be started on any other day. So, what makes 1 January so special? On any other day, this will just be a list of things you would like to do, but to make this list on 1 January, puts a lot of pressure on you and by the end of January, you feel like a complete failure.
In my opinion, if you feel the urge to volunteer, go help out somewhere for a day and see how it goes from there. If you want to get more organised, find a place for things and put it away. If you want to read more, buy a book today. If you do not give your family enough attention, switch off your computer, and go home. I find number 10 hugely entertaining, you are adding your “to do” list, to your “to do” list.
I feel like I want to yell from the rooftops, “Stop making lists, and start doing something!” There is nothing wrong with making a list of things to do if you are planning your year, because planning is the first step in achieving. But making a list of things and by 2 January you have not put any planning behind how you are going to achieve this, I am afraid to say – your list will look the same again next year, only you will be more overweight, you may now be a raging alcoholic, your wife/husband has left you because you don’t spend any time together, the only thing that you have read the past year is your horoscopes (does anybody see the irony in the “horo” (horror) part of a horoscope.)
So, don’t make resolutions on 1 January – make them every day and draft the action steps to get there.
This whole bog can be summed up in one sentence. “If you wanna go to Paris, get a passport”